Have you ever waited on a man?

10.15.2008

You say he's just a friend?

It's a Friday night and your boyfriend is out of sight, I mean town. Sweet! Time for a girls night out right? Not.

I know a lot of girls have other girl best friends and they do everything together. They have their movie nights, shopping trips, and nights where they just "need to dance".

It's a little different for me though. I have always loved boys, all kinds of them, and in every shape, form, size, color and clothing. I have dated most "types", but for the most part they all end up becoming my best friends.

I don't know what it is about girls though. It might be the hours they need to get ready just to go food shopping with me. It might be the endless gossip about who did or said what that made them cry, get angry, or depressed this week. It might just be that they are too much like me and I need a break from that. For once in my life I just need a man to fill in those woman shoes.

Size 14 red stilettos perhaps?

It's not like I have gay best friends or guys who do girl things with me, it's just that I like the way guys work. They don't think as much, cry as much, need me that much, and they are so much more simpler than girls.

Don't get me wrong now, I love my girlfriends dearly, but I will never have more than say 3 at a time. I just can't handle the constant stress of their lives and mine. Guys have it easier. Girls aren't hitting on them 24/7 or groping them on the dance floor.

They are the perfect friends for bar hopping. You can pretend they are your boyfriend when that gross guy tries to pick you up. They can drink just as much as you and still have control as opposed to a girl who lives next door and always has to be carried home and passes out in front of her door, keys still in hand.

Guys are just better at being friends than lovers. Once you throw attraction in the mix or feelings other than friendship things can get crazy.

It's hard to pick out the weeds in your life. There are definite assholes who pretend to be your friend, yet whenever they get the chance they become the poser friend. They are only there to wait until your guard is down and then lunge in for the kill.

People will try and trick you in this world, so don't be one of those girls that says, "but he was supposed to be my friend!" Trust me when I say, they never were if they try to take advantage of you.

There are 5 signs I see when a guy is just posing as friend.

1. He calls you everyday. - Save it for your real girlfriend buddy. Unless he he is your absolute best friend in the entire world, he shouldn't be calling you everyday to hang out or even just to talk. Just keep your guard up if that's happening.

2. He buys things for you - If he's always offering to pay, red flag!

3. He asks you about the type of guys you like or about your boyfriend all the time- This is a definite no no. If he sounds like he's creeping then he is.

4. He doesn't want to hang out in groups - If he is always trying to get you alone there's something fishy going on. He is trying to get the window of opportunity.

5. If he is always putting down the people you date- Definite signal that he want's you and not your friendship, wise up.

So, it's ok to have friends of the opposite sex as long as you have trust, if your in a relationship, and if your single, then just know when those signs are popping up it's time to evaluate the so called friendship.

Oh boys, twenty three boys, or 59, 37, 334, whatever it is, there isn't enough in this world to satisfy us WOMEN. See you next time, next problem, next stupid boy.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

once again ur awesome and have out done urself... Oh and i hope i dont fall into one of those categories, i mean it is U calling me 1/2 the time! haha mis u and see u at thanks giving.
-bdu

Mr. Bubbles said...

I like it. You've got what it takes to be a successful journalist. Keep up the good work Rockstar =]

Josh said...

Absolutely love the post wicked true and right to the point. Except for one thing.....In your 5 signs to run for hills when you say that he is always trying to get u alone. Now you yourself said that guys a simple and u want to hang with guys...there are many times where I just want to hang out with just girls no guys. Now its not that I want to date the girl...its just I want to have a conversation about something other than sports and just want to chill with a girl for a bit because its fun to mix it up a bit. But if you are in a group and he is trying to get u alone and pull you from the group the I totally agree....he wants you more than a friend.......and we should def hang out sometime where I can get you alone,buy you stuff,talk about the guys you are interested in so I can make fun of them.....Great Post :)

Andi said...

I totally agree Josh. I don't think it's a sign if you hang out with guys alone, but if it's happening a lot or he requests it a lot, then I would have to say it would be suspicious. :) Thanks for the feedback!

Nicole said...

Favorite one to date, Anna. You not only write very well, you have important things to say (probably the most important in journalism). Love it. Can't wait to see these blogs in real magazines one day.

David said...

You seem to be spot-on with everything! Especially #1 - I'd say that if you're a guy and you're calling someone - anyone - every day "just to talk," you're a weenie.

a buddy said...

you take forever to get ready to go anywhere :X

ive experienced it :P

Andi said...

I don't do it all the time. :)

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Naomi said...

I can relate to this post. I've gone on what me and my girl friend calls a 'group date' and a 'dupe date.'

For me at these times, I did feel annoyed, betrayed, or amused (or a combination).

I do realize though that friendship is always a good basis but there just has to be the right timing.

(btw, thanks for your comment on my blog. your blog has interesting posts like this where we as girls can relate spot on! it's simple and it's keeping it real.)

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